My friends sometimes show me photos they took in their daily lives.

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Jun 15, 2019 19:48
My friends sometimes show me photos they took in their daily lives. It's good to learn about the culture of your target language, but before all, it's fun. I also share my photos with them. I want them to know about my life.
When one of my friends showed me photos of interesting posters which tell people that they should use a condom or go to a doctor when they catch a sexually transmitted disease. I found those posters cool and informative. Suddenly I felt a strange feeling as if I was seeing them through another person's eyes. I asked him where he took those photos. The posters were in front of a main train station, on the street. He asked me back if there are similar posters in Japan, and I said "No". Then I finally figured out what felt strange. The posters, which can never be seen on the street in Japan, didn't embarrass me at all, whereas many Japanese people would react differently to them. They might be so embarrassed that they would look away from them or say something weird to hide their shock. There is a gap of sensibilities(sentiments?) between them and me.
My boss had been mad at me for almost two weeks, because I used these words such as "pill" and "contraception" to one of my students. (He isn't mad any longer, fortunately. Now he is grateful that I can properly teach students about such difficult problems with confidence.) His opinion, that you shouldn't teach children or students about sex, is sadly the majority of Japan; a country where a woman is blamed by her doctor when she needs pills for a treatment. That happened to me. My former doctor blamed me saying that I just wanted pills to prevent from getting pregnant because I had multiple sex partners. The clinic I went belonged to a national university hospital in Osaka. I still can't believe that. It happened to me in the 21 century at one of the best reputed hospitals of Japan.
I had been aware that other people take me as a person who has annoyingly modern opinions about sex or gender even before the conflict with my boss. Sometimes I am told that, but I wasn't sure how far I am, the distance is.
The moment I had another person's eyes inside me was precious. I understand why other people tell there seems to be a cultural difference with me, even though I am a Japanese person who was raised in Japan, speaking all the time in Japanese with them. I am wondering when I started changing. I started forming different views, and as a result, I may have been leaving the majority of Japan (maybe...), when I restarted learning English. Through my friends I have been learning many things that are still not common in Japan. "You have been too much influenced by foreign cultures": this is what other people say to me when my modern opinions annoy them. I don't know how to reply to them, so it is good to know how far I have come.
Sometimes I am frustrated that I have no words to tell others when I want to explain things that are very normal for me. It's not a problem of my Japanese skills nor their Japanese.